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A few months ago I met a boy of the same age who lives quite close to me. I feel our relationship is at the point where I can begin talking to him about spiritual matters more openly, but I don't really know what I should and shouldn't say.
I am 14 years old and currently home schooled in the tenth grade. A few months ago I met a boy of the same age who lives quite close to me. This isn't a question about dating because I don't date. Over a period of time I got to know him and found out some pretty upsetting things. He hasn't seen his dad in five years and his dad only lives about 25 minutes from him. He has an uncle who is involved in very illegal things such as drugs and other stuff. He doesn't really have any role models except some of his friends who are nothing but trouble. I know that he smokes, drinks occasionally and listens to violent music. He has even told me of times he has thoughts of suicide. I care about him very much and I don't think he is violent or dangerous. I have been praying for him. He knows my values and what I believe but I haven't pushed him to join church or tried to preach to him. I feel our relationship is at the point where I can begin talking to him about spiritual matters more openly, but I don't really know what I should and shouldn't say, I don't want to push him away. What should I do?
Thanks so much for your question and for your obvious concern for your lost friend. I have a few questions that may help you decide what is best in this situation.
1. Do your parents know this friend or is this friendship secret?
2. You mentioned your friend is involved in some questionable activities (smoking, drinking, violent music). Is this something you are wanting to become involved in?
3. Does your friend respect you and have your best interest in mind in your relationship?
The Bible gives us some very clear words about our relationships with unbelievers. On the one hand we are commanded to be "salt and light" to the earth. It also says, however, that "bad company corrupts good character."
I would encourage you to use caution as you develop this relationship. Keep it public and make sure your parents know this boy. If he really is drinking and smoking at 14, he is breaking the law and may even encourage you to do the same. Keep praying for him and inviting him to church. Be honest with him about your relationship with God. It will be your friend's choice whether or not to accept Christ.
I hope this helps.
Blessings to you!
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